Are you killing your relation with arguments? Here are 7 ways to deal with arguments.

Relations pass through various stages like love, adoration, cooperation and arguments & fights too. Yes, usually we might have an argument or disagreement with our life partner and reason can be any. Sometimes we intensify the arguments to such a level which makes the relation to lose its warmth and creates a breach. Sometimes, there are very funny or stupid reasons behind an argument to start and periodically people raise the issues of past and create a new argument. Rather than finding the solution of the frequent quarrels, we more spend time on social media, going for shopping or dining out believing these to be stress reliever. But why do we waste time trying to deal with post argument time than find a solution to have no arguments.

So, next time when you are about to start an argument with your partner on tiny issues like – “Why did you like her DP?” “Why didn’t you reply when you were online?” and many other reasons, just keep in mind that following an argument, tackle and sort out all issues with your partner.

Don’t threaten with the breakup – However tempting it may sound to say, “I don’t think it’s working it, let’s just break up”, please do not utter these words unless you really mean to break up. I mean, how mature would you be, if you cannot handle a dirty argument and think it should be the end of a relationship? So please, don’t diminish the beautiful bond.

Don’t take digs at each other – In a fit of anger, if you take dig or taunt your partner with the derogatory words which hurt a lot, relation might become on the edge of elimination. Never express your anger which might hurt dignity or respect of your partner.

Don’t deviate, No mention of what happened in past – Sometimes or most of times, a new argument starts in an argument by dragging something happened in past. Ridiculously some people even forget where their argument had started from by adding an old issue. When you have buried an issue in old argument, is there any use of exhuming the issue and start fighting on it again? Obviously you are killing warmth of your relations if doing so. Never scratch past issues if you have developed any new.

Agree to each other wherever fair – Just because you’re representing different flags during the argument doesn’t mean that you won’t agree to each other even where it would be fair. Show some sportsman spirit people, fight with dignity. This one goes a long way in winning you respect and admiration.

Apology may not be important, pampering? – Always you fought, now you are waiting for an apology from either side and wondering if another partner is missing you too. You want to call/text, but don’t want to apologize as it wasn’t even my fault. If he/she cant, then why should I – This is just so common to all of us! Okay then you may or may not apologize, but at least talk and tell them you have been missing them. It makes up for the apology-drill.

The post-quarrel intimacy – Ever tried this? Works the best right? Making out to make up is probably one of the best situations ever and I am sure you agree with this. So, when you need to end the awkwardness post-argument, just use the heat of the argument into something else, and this won’t be regretted.

The golden rule: Do not drag any fight to the next day – Talk to your partner and establish this in the preamble or whatever you have for your relationship, never-ever-ever drag last night’s argument to the next morning. Yes, it can be weird to behave as if it never happened. But the idea is to acknowledge what happened and yet not identify it as an upheaval in your love story.

And at last, please remember, fights are inevitable in every relationship. Be it with your parents-siblings-or partner. But they don’t have to indicate the onset of doomsday! Instead, understand why the other one is upset and think how you can make it rather special by making up to them. Sweet relations make everything beautiful for us, so why to spoil relations with arguments and invite stress and mental agony. Kill arguments and sweeten relations and life.