Maintain warmth of your relations with spouse before it becomes dull. Here are some ways!

Days turn into months and months turn into years, as the time roll on, the relations between husband and wife become lazy. The charm, attraction, fascination and pleasantness get faded as time passes and at one stage the relation just looks very dull where a wife is more involved in household chores and husband becomes a machine to fulfill personal and family needs. But when one imagines past moments, feels hurting for both life partner. In today’s stressed life, love and care is necessary for both life partners to remain internally and externally happy. Being in relation is easy but more important is to maintain the relation with the same charm and delight as it was initially. Lots of people say situations change with time, nothing is evergreen. But remember about promises made with each other in the beginning of the relation. Were those promises gimmicks of false? Of course not but to prove those promises and commitments true, both of life partners have to make efforts to make their married life lively and happening. This write up is for all – people who have been married for a long time, people who have got married recently and people who are going to be married soon. Depending upon the various situations and circumstances, I would like to share some suggestions for a spouse which will help to maintain his/her marital relation. Here are these –

Sharing – At the time of marriage, we perform some rituals and irrespective of any religion, we pledge to share happiness and sorrows together. It is because both life partners are supposed to contribute to make life happy and both are expected to do efforts together to solve any problem in life. Most of time, either of spouses does not share any problem stating the problem not relevant to be shared with the spouse. Whether it’s financial, official or any health related problem; share it with your spouse. If your spouse has no solution of the problem but you will definitely get a mental strength from your spouse.

Responsibility – The day one gets married, he/she has some responsibilities towards life partner. In India, it’s generally husband’s responsibility to arrange for all basic needs for wife. But everything should not be imposed on single shoulder and with a mutual understanding, try to fulfill responsibilities for each other. Life changes with different circumstances but if you are responsible towards your life partner, the warmth of the relation remains maintained.

No argument or confrontation – There can be various tough situations in life, there can be any financial problem, there can be any mistake from spouse, if one argues or confronts, the relation starts getting spoil which becomes very difficult to get normal. Better to talk, counsel and sort out issues mutually. Argument becomes an issue of pride and no one likes to lose in it. Better to discuss politely rather than arguing.

No criticizing or blaming – See the parliament where government and opposition in more busy in criticizing and blaming each other so that’s why this is the state of the country. Same is with our lives when we criticize or blame each others, life becomes like a misery. Here is a reminder for all, the day you started your relation, you had committed each other that spiritually you will remain with your life partner as one body. So, criticizing each other is just like blaming self.

No comparison with other – Biggest culprit behind bitterness in the relations is when we compare our lives with others. Life is different for all, some are financially well established so easy for them to dine out frequently and get luxuries in the life. But when we expect what others do we should also do the same, the life starts losing its natural colour and becomes very fictitious. Why other say, what other do, is not our business as we should know what we can do.

Be courteous and romancing – In the beginning of the married life, people seem to be very polite and courteous with their spouses with as time passes, this politeness and courtesy get fade. Start of the day with a smile on face to see your life partner, use of words like bye, take care, thank you, missing you etc and other ways which we did in the beginning should never stop. Life is all about taking care of each other, when you say these phrases with a smile on your face, your life partner feels cared well by you.

Relax your partner – After a long working day out and after a full involved day in household chores, your partner needs a relaxation. If you tune to TV after coming home and keep watching without noticing your wife’s expecting you to talk to her or wife starts nonstop complaining chitchat session after husband comes home, both will feel irritated and frustrated. Home is a place where harmony and support should be there to feel relaxed. When husbands comes home from work, should have a smile on face and wife too should make him feel relaxed with a lovely smile. Surely entire day’s tiredness will vanish instantly. Do not consider your life partner just a sex machine, but take care of his/her feeling and make each other relaxed.

So, dear readers, it was all about my discussions with you. Life is full of enjoy but for those who enjoy together. Married life is very crucial, if taken care well, it makes life full of positive energy and happiness but if arrogance & rigidness comes between, life becomes very unpleasant and miserable. Live it together with your life partner and make it rock solid to throw all challenges. Comment if you want to add something to maintain harmonious relations.