Is superiority complex killing your growth and social relations?

One of my friends, pursuing her masters in medicine, was set to marry in December this year. Everything was going fine and both families were engaged in marriage preparation. But things went nasty when, during a family get-together her fiancé started bragging a lot. According to him, he was the smartest in both the families and everyone, was an idiot. He believed that no one could match up to his potential. On various occasions, he would tell her that she should feel lucky to have him in her life. It was the last straw and I called off the wedding. Apart from instances of cheating and compatibility issues, an increased self-worth, which leads to superiority complex, is also leading to divorces and break-ups.

‘Vitamin-Me’ Complex – People with superiority complex refuse to admit that they are at fault. They are rigid and believe that their ideologies and beliefs are unquestionable. But experts say this is their way of hiding their insecurities. When kids are subjected to comparisons, they develop low self-esteem. They want to prove everyone wrong and as a defence mechanism, they subconsciously start believing that they are the best.

It is often correlated with inferiority complex and both are believed to be inter-related. These are both different sides of the same coin. For most with superiority complex, their need for appreciation, approval, attention and acceptance gives rise to the problem.

Symptoms and repercussions – Most people with superiority complex don’t bother about other people’s emotions, and it gets extremely uncomfortable and unpleasant to be around them. As such people only focus on themselves and their accomplishments, they put others down on many occasions. They are also delusional, and believe that others haven’t achieved anything at all. So, they end up becoming self styled perfectionist. With their continuous bragging, they drain out the mental energy of people around.

Some other outcomes of superiority complex –

• They can’t get along with others due to nonstop self bragging.
• They don’t make for good bosses, primarily because they can’t appreciate others.
• They are jealous of other people’s achievements

After reading above content, if you feel you or someone has such behaviour on regular basis, it is due to superiority complex. Superiority complex is a hindrance in developing good interpersonal relations and often it isolates the person with such behaviour with coworkers, family and relatives. Why such complexion develops, varies person to person emotional, mental, psychological and circumstantial states.

Is it possible to come out of superiority complex? Of course, nothing is impossible. Relations & growth can be at risk with this complex, so better to choose relations and growth over superiority complex. Every complex behaviour can be restored to normal one with some guidelines and therapies. If you are aware of your superiority disorder, accept it and set some limits for you, your capacities and never exceed it. Live in real world and stop living in imaginary. Kill your ‘I’ and spend time with family and peers with harmonious environment.

Prayer, meditation and Yoga help your physical, mental and psychological order to be regular. People living or dealing with a person with superiority complex always feel a compromise while being together. So, never make feel your relation with somebody as a compromise and kill your ‘superior complex behaviour.’